
Holiday season is coming up and we're starting to make plans for Thanksgiving and Christmas. As our son gets older, he gets more and more excited about the holidays. And this is the first year that he really remembers the holidays from last year, which makes it more fun for all of us. I'm excited to share our holiday traditions with him and create some new ones with him.
Traditions can be very enjoyable to share with your family, but what if you don't really have any traditions? Or what if your traditions aren't really that fun, but you keep doing them because you've always done them? I say just make some new ones. For years in my husband's family, everyone bought presents for everyone else. That meant we had to buy gifts for his parents, grandparents, his two siblings and their spouses. Every year we stressed about how to afford to buy so many presents and what to get everyone. Every year it took hours to get through the opening of the presents, and it left most of us feeling drained and overwhelmed. After a few years of lobbying, I finally convinced them that we should start a new tradition. So instead, we draw names and each buy a present for only one person. And we also each buy one exepensive, fun present or gag gift and have a "white elephant" exchange. Now the opening of presents is more fun and doesn't consume the entire day. And the pressure is off of everyone to spend a lot of money. This is the fourth year of our new tradition and everyone looks forward to it.
So many traditions for the holidays involve food; if you're trying to minimize that, why not start a new tradition that incorporates exercise? When my husband and I lived in Colorado, we used to go snowboarding on Christmas morning and then go home for dinner in the evening and presents. The slopes were typically empty in the morning and we felt better about eating a big meal after we had been so physically active. Lots of cities have Thanksgiving Day races. Maybe you could start a new tradition and walk or run in a race with your family on turkey day.
Traditions should be fun and meaningful for the people who participate in them. Don't be afraid to change traditions that fall short of that. And come up with some new traditions that your whole family enjoys. You might be surprised at how quickly and easily they embrace a new tradition.

I think in general I've been making good choices to help promote my overall well-being. However, there is one area I still need to make improvements in: taking care of myself when I'm sick. You'd think with all the emphasis I've been placing on taking time out for myself and trying to maintain balance in my life that taking good care of myself when I got sick would be a no-brainer. Well, as I found out this past week, that isn't the case.
I started feeling sick at work on Friday and instead of going home early to take care of myself, I stayed at work and kept up a hectic pace that I would have had trouble handling when well, much less while sick. Why did I do that? Because I was the only one in my department at work that day so I thought I couldn't leave and had to get everything done myself. Then on Saturday we had planned to have a small party for my sister-in-law and her husband who were in town. She said we should cancel it since I was sick, but I insisted we have it and I over-exerted myself and stayed up too late Saturday night. Why? Because I didn't want to disappoint everyone.
I paid the price for not taking it easy while I was sick; Sunday I pretty much laid on the couch all day and did nothing. Except I didn't learn my lesson completely, because I still insisted on dragging myself out to the grocery store. I'm not sure if I didn't want to fully admit I was sick, or if I had convinced myself that I just couldn't take a day off completely without everything falling apart, but regardless of the reason, I know now it was stupid. If I would have just crawled into bed and stayed there for a few days, I probably would have gotten better a lot faster. I'm still not 100% and now my son is sick, so I need my energy to take care of him. Next time I get sick, instead of trying to stubbornly power through it, I'm going to try to actually allow myself to take a sick day. I know this is one area where I need to take much better care of myself.

I have a co-worker who was confiding in me the other day about how things haven't been going great in her personal life and she realized that one of her problems is that she needs better friends. She has a few good ones, but there are also a few that take advantage of her, don't treat her with respect, and generally bring her down. In my opinion, life is too short to surround yourself with people like that. The great thing about friendship is that it's optional; especially as an adult, you don't have to be friends with some people. Sure, you still need to be kind and respectful to others no matter what, but you don't have to actually be friends with and spend your time and energy with people unless you want to.
In my experience, there are several kinds of good friends to have:
As an adult I've tried to choose friends that are helpful, supportive and kind. The friendships that have lasted the longest and the ones I value the most are with people like that. It's meant that sometimes I've had to end friendships that weren't a positive influence on my life, but I don't regret any of those decisions. Surrounding myself with the best friends to have has made my life better, and helped me to be a better friend as well.
Marla
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